She had been worried about it for a long time and started to question whether she was right or wrong. She felt that she had ruined her husband’s and the entire family’s Christmas by being overly sensitive, so she shared her thoughts on Reddit. Here’s what other users had to say:

“His observations, as he calls them, are all direct insults. He is actively body-shaming you. Likely on purpose and fully aware of what he’s doing. He wants you back as you were before and fails to realize that bodies change. He is abusing you mentally and verbally. You simply reached the breaking point and let it out. Don’t start bottling up again. Rebuke him every time he says something in front of everyone until he either learns or leaves.” © Naive_Special349 / Reddit
“This is not passive-aggressive and it is not an observation. It is degrading, humiliating, and abusive. He’s gaslighting you. The fact the comment during Christmas dinner was met with awkward silence shows that people see he is being awful to you. He embarrassed himself and started the scene. You simply had enough and stood up for yourself. Good for you! Please save yourself and your child from this toxic relationship.” © maria1978354 / Reddit
“So basically he’s telling you he married you for your body and now it’s gone to pot cause you birthed him a baby?” © KikiMoon / Reddit
“You didn’t ruin Christmas, he did.” © radioactive_koala / Reddit
“His ‘observations’ are always cruel and uncalled for. To say it in front of others is amazingly hurtful, especially in response to a compliment made to you. He is trying to hurt and shame you about changes due to pregnancy; even if you didn’t have a baby, your body would change over time. Your husband [...] embarrassed himself by voicing his opinions about your body in front of his family. Bodies change. People age. If he can’t accept that, then you’re going to have a hard marriage. Take care of yourself and baby & keep telling him to keep his opinions to himself.” © Diligent-Activity-70 / Reddit

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