For those who want to learn, like Gwyneth Paltrow, to not harbor anger and resentment towards ex-partners, Thomas’s book offers five steps for working on yourself.

One must learn to find the positive in the negative. For example, if an ex-partner does not appear in your, or your child’s, life for many years? Consider it a success. After all, this means you don’t have to deal with someone you dislike.
Everyone needs to accept and forgive themselves, first and foremost, for their own mistakes. Maybe you didn’t believe in yourself enough, or tried too hard to prove your own worth. Only after realizing your mistakes will you have the chance to not repeat them in the future.
You need to understand what led you to make the mistakes that caused the breakup. The therapist claims that often these are childhood traumas which, if left unresolved, stop you from building a healthy relationship.
The fourth step can take a long time, as it’s based on forgiving yourself and your ex-partner. However, as a result, you will build a foundation for all future relationships.
A fair division of property, and a fair distribution of time with a shared child. Each of these things has an impact on the relationship of former partners. Making a decision that all parties are comfortable with can be the beginning of a great friendship that will last a lifetime.

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