20+ Discoveries Made by People That Changed Their Sex

A huge number of people in the world think they are transgenders — not the sex they feel they are. In the US alone, this number is around 1,6 million. After the transition, it’s not just a physical transformation that people have to deal with, it’s also the small things they didn’t know they needed to adjust to.

We at CHEERY came across a Reddit thread where users honestly talked about the things that amazed them the most after gender transitioning.

Women are trusted with more secrets.

Many were shocked when they realized that people tend to tell more secrets to women than to men.

The amount of women in my family, my female friends, and even female acquaintances now confiding every single deep dark detail of their life in me, or just openly talking about their every bodily function. © O_My_Goshness_No / Reddit
It’s a whole other level when you transition, getting to talk to women with zero barriers and full ability to relate to so many extra things was probably one of the nicest parts about transitioning. Whenever I talk to any women that accept me now it’s by far the most validating enjoyable part of transitioning, I never had that level of relating to others before as my experience wasn’t close enough. © Girlmode / Reddit

Strangers talk to men more often.

And strangers often talk to men on public transportation, on the street, or in cafes.

Now that I look like a guy, people talk to me more. Whether it’s my bus driver telling me “All women are busy and crazy, I’m being serious mate!” or a random person at a train station saying “Oi mate do you know what time it is?”. Being seen as a girl sometimes feels like being invisible. © SkaterKangaroo / Reddit

All men call each other buddies.

Have you ever noticed that men call their close people, neighbors, colleagues, and even guys they don’t know, buddies? Those that have become men only recently, didn’t expect that.

People weren’t joking when they said Canadians use the word “bud” a lot when talking to boys. © nightingalegrey15 / Reddit
One of my friends said, “Everyone starts using really specific ‘guy’ terms a lot. Calling me buddy, pal, guy, etc.” It’s strangely charming. © eclecticsed / Reddit

Men are not touched as often.

Men are not hugged as often. The same is true for all types of physical contact.

Almost no touching by non-family members. When I was living as a woman they would give hugs, touch my shoulder or arms, even stranger wasn’t always appreciated. As a man now, they will shake your hand, nothing else. © Dutch_Rayan / Reddit
Us women are really big huggers! © CurrentSpecialist600 / Reddit

Women trust each other with no conditions.

According to many users, women subconsciously trust other women, even if they don’t know each other. It’s not a problem for women to help others with children or fix someone’s hair.

Part of this is just that I was lucky to be surrounded by great people, but I was accepted as “just one of the girls” really fast. I came out before my senior year and on my first day back to school I literally had someone who I had just met ask me for a painkiller because she was on her period. © Digimaniac123 / Reddit
Cis woman here, when I was a teenager I was in a restaurant bathroom and a woman came in with a roughly 1-year-old. She asked me to hold the baby while she went, I was happy to oblige, but that was a whole lot of natural trust to just hand me your baby! © MajorHotLips / Reddit

Women’s clothes almost never have pockets.

One of the most frequent problems that trans people notice is that there are almost no pockets on women’t clothes. They wonder, “Where do I keep everything I need?”

Welcome to the sad reality of feminine clothes. © Jin_Chaeji / Reddit
Pockets are at least half the reason we wear our boyfriend’s jeans. © legendariel / Reddit

Women say nice things to each other all the time.

According to Reddit users, most of the compliments women get are not from men, but from other women.

The very first time I went out in public dressed femininely after I came out, I had two other women say nice things about my outfit. I was stunned. In all the previous more than thirty years of dressing like a man, I can’t think of a single time a man complimented me on my clothes. And I’ve always been pretty fashionable, no matter what gender I’m dressing for. Now I almost expect it. I know what outfits and looks I have that will always get other women to compliment me. It’s wild. © tenehemia / Reddit
Yup, first time I ever went out dressed as myself, a woman complimented my nails and said she needed to get hers done like them. Truly shocking. © Swiftie-13 / Reddit
Other ladies know how much effort went into your looks. My girlfriends and I make it a point to compliment other women any chance we get. © ManaFrmHeaven / Reddit

Men praise each other’s beards.

And unlike women, men don’t say compliments to each other very often, unless it’s about beards.

I heard from a trans man that after he grew a beard, he kept getting nods from other bearded men. © GaloisGroupie3474 / Reddit
As a guy, I’ve never received compliments from other guys, except for when I grew a pretty thick beard, those compliments were only coming from other man with beards. The compliments were nice, but having a beard is kind of annoying. © Xblaster49 / Reddit
I have a ridiculous handlebar-ish mustache. Guys will literally stop their cars to yell, “nice mustache.” © Agent8426 / Reddit
I know I’m going to get a ton of opposition, but men grow beards for other men, not for women. Same as why they bulk in the gym. Men admire that, women (generalising here) don’t. © duckfat01 / Reddit

Men nod to each other.

After the transition, many people noticed that men have their own body language. A simple nod can have several meanings.

Did you learn it? First though, welcome. It gets worse from here. Second, here’s a quick cheat sheet:
-Up nod : I know you, you know me, we see each other. Most likely a friend.
-Down nod: I don’t know you, you don’t know me, I am acknowledging your presence because you’re in/close to my proximity and present a possible threat.
NOTE: Usually the down-nod is reciprocated, but if it isn’t, don’t take it personally. Still, be vigilant, though. © i_steal_napkins / Reddit

For women, a purse is absolutely necessary.

Aside from the problem of no pockets, women have another reason for carrying a purse.

Having to carry a purse. A lot of the stuff I carry around now just doesn’t fit in a pocket—like, women’s wallets are just bulkier than men’s’ wallets. © Saavedro117 / Reddit

In toilets, men are silent, and women talk.

The atmosphere in men’s and women’s toilets is very different. Women almost always take their friends with them. For them, going to the bathroom is part of the fun. And it turned out that men don’t talk in toilets.

Other women really like to chat in the ladies room, about all kinds of things. They talk about boys, their bodies etc. even with like total strangers! I don’t participate yet, I’m too scared, I like to stay in my stall and just listen. © Aggravating_Pin_4222 / Reddit
My friend who is a trans woman said that female bathroom culture took some getting used to, particularly how we’ll go in there with a friend having a conversation, plop down in adjacent stalls, and just KEEP TALKING while we do our business. She said that dudes are socialized that you absolutely do not do that, and conversations go on hold when entering the bathroom and generally don’t resume until you’ve both exited the bathroom. © NoBrush6678 / Reddit
Men’s restrooms are weird slits in the fabric of the universe where social norms don’t make sense anymore. Do not look at anyone. Do not speak to anyone. © TyNyeTheTransGuy / Reddit

It takes time to learn how to shake hands.

The people that have become men recently wonder how to tell one handshake from the other and understand which is appropriate. However, according to Reddit, you can spend your entire life as a man and never learn the right answer.

I’m still figuring out the handshake thing dudes do to greet each other. Like are we gonna fist bump, are we gonna go for the clasp and hug, are we gonna just go for the business standard? There’s gotta be some rule for it, but I am still mystified by it. © kasimirthered / Reddit
You have to check posture and where his hand is facing. If his hand is perpendicular, it’s going to be a close hug. If it’s pointing to you, long distance hug. In between? Somewhere in between. © Chompchompers / Reddit
The handshake will come with time. I promise that a lot of the time, the other dude isn’t sure what to do either. It’s kind of a thing that gets mutually decided mid-swing. © Jason_Giambis_Thong / Reddit

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